Grief Resources

The word "bereavement" derives from an Old English term meaning "deprival". The bereavement that is starting for you has deprived you of a loved one, and pain is the inevitable result. The person who has just passed leaves an enormous void in the family. Once the funeral is over, it is very likely that, sooner or later, you as a bereaved person will be alone with your grief. Those around you will have returned to normal life well before your own life has stabilized. With time, your need to talk about your loss may find no one left to listen. As one moves through the mourning process, one sometimes feels like healing will never come. It then becomes very important to seek out human comfort and warmth for support in this difficult period of our life.

Your pain is unique

Since each human being is different, you will have your own way of experiencing your pain.

You have to be indulgent with yourself, live one moment at a time, and not miss an opportunity to congratulate yourself on your courage.

Most specialists say that a major mourning period can last between nine months and two years. But those figures are only approximate indicators: you will be in mourning as long as you need to be.

At certain stages of mourning, the bereaved person may feel the need to be alone to take stock of things. At other times, he or she may feel an acute need to be listened to, consoled and supported. You have to respect your own needs, which will be sure to change as the months go by.

Afterloss: A tool for support in bereavement offered exclusively by the funeral homes

Losing a family member is probably the most difficult trial we face in life. Those who have experienced this know how important it is to feel support from others in order to get through the upheavals of a bereavement.

The people who work at Berthiaume Funeral Home have daily experience of death and bereavement. They know the emotions that can well up weeks after the loss of a family member. For that reason, the Berthiaume family offer a series of twelve instalments called Afterloss in order to continue our support for bereaved families, even beyond the period of the funeral rites.

The twelve installments series are sent free of charge to persons who have ordered funeral services for a family member. They are sent in the first year - one every month.

Each instalment contains:

• Coaching for every stage of the bereavement;
• Personal accounts: from people of all ages, recounting their experience in mourning the death of a spouse, a child or a parent;
• Practical exercises for moving forward through a bereavement;
• Resources: book suggestions, self-help groups, natural helpers, professional help;
• Tips and advice;
• Simple, accessible and concrete information about bereavement.

Why are we offering this service?

Simply because we realize that the death of a family member is a difficult trial, and that many bereaved persons need support and information. By virtue of its education role, your funeral home offers services that start before the death and continue beyond the funeral service. The publication of a tool to help families in mourning is a project that has been close to our hearts for a long time.

Afterloss is a tool expressly designed for bereaved persons who have ordered funeral services for a family member from a Berthiaume Funeral Home. The Berthiaume Funeral Homes also make it available to the families for a fee of between $30 and $60. For information, please contact your funeral home.

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Grief Resources

The death of someone we care about can be one of the most difficult experiences in life. Words fail to describe how painful the grief we feel can be. It is more challenging than we, or others, might expect.

These articles are meant to describe different types of grief; their intent is to help you understand your own, or to help you empathize with another person's grief.

These articles were written by Dr Bill Webster, our Director of Grief Education, and are part of a comprehensive library available on our Grief Journey web portal. Dr Bill is the founder and executive director of the Centre for the Grief Journey. He earned his doctorate at the University of Toronto in 1990, and has been awarded a prestigious fellowship in thanatology by the Association of Death Education and Counselling (ADEC).

Dr Bill`s knowledge of grief exists not just in theory, but from a very difficult personal experience. In 1983, Bill`s young wife died suddenly of a heart attack. Her passing left him in the difficult situation of coping with immense loss while raising his two sons, who were only seven and nine when their mother died. Dr Bill has become a recognized author, and a renowned international speaker and seminar leader who draws from 30 years of experience in the field of grief support and counselling.

Understanding Grief

These articles will help you understand your own grief or the grief of another. Grief is not as simple as it's made out to be -- it is more than just "feeling sad."

10 Facts about Grief and Grieving
Understanding Bereavement

Coping with Loss

These articles will help you understand the dynamics of specific losses, such as the loss of a spouse, or the loss of a pet.

The Loss of a Spouse
The Loss of a Pet

Children and Grief

These articles will help you understand the grief process of a child, with tips on how to help them cope.

Loss from a Child’s Perspective
Helping Children Cope

Helping those who Grieve

These articles will provide you with some useful information on how to help someone who is grieving, as well as tips on how to help navigate special days and holidays, which can be especially difficult in the wake of a loss.

How to Help Someone who is Grieving
How to Help Navigate Special days and Holidays

Coping with Complicated Situations

Grief can come unexpectedly in life. These articles offer more specific information on certain types of grief, such as grief following a suicide, and grief in the workplace.

Suicide
Grief in the Workplace

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